“Sometimes life’s a broken bridal, you can spend hours trying to put it back together again, but all the cursing, moans, and pleas won’t make it as strong again. It might look as good, even last a while, but when it comes to crunch time it will snap, sending you flat on your arse. So don’t depend on something flimsy to keep you safe, whether it’s a piece of equipment, a person, or just an idea. Pick something worthwhile, and remember to take care of it, because you might need it on the journey ahead.”
A few words from my younger self, which still ring true as much today. Life is a journey, and there are many ways in which you can travel it. For a lot of people, it’s like riding a horse. First you have to learn the basics, balance, engagement, and attention. People then add all sorts of neat tricks on top, little signs of where they come from, and where they learnt it.
Some people ride bareback. Galloping through the good times, and the bad, putting their trust in their skill. Others walk slowly in a procession, equipped with every possible failsafe, and accompanied by all of their friends. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, respecting their mount and the equipment, but taking the odd risk to see if it pays off.
Sometimes we fall, scraping our handsome bruising our bodies. There are those times where we fall and break something, having to take the time to mend and heal, and never quite the same afterwards. And there are those that decide enough is enough, get off their horse, and hang up their tack. These people believe that the risk outweighs the excitement of the ride, the chance to see things from a new perspective, and feel the wind in your face as you bolt towards something unknown on the horizon.
There isn’t a right way, and nobody can guarantee you’re going to be safe, even those who get off may end up hit by a car. It’s about what works for you, what you want, and how you want to get it. Galloping can be fun but it’s risky, and you miss all the little things, while walking everywhere can become tedious and repetitive.
Whatever your calling, remember that if you’re going to put your trust in your ride, make sure it’s well-placed. Don’t go through life, holding on a halter which is about to break, because you might not be ready for what comes next. Learn to mend things, fix them, it might not be as pretty, but that’s just because it’s been put to good use. Not everything that’s used needs to be thrown to way, as long as you take the time to care for it, and pay attention when it needs fixing. This is your life, fill it with places you want to go, people you want with you, and respect the things that get you there.